If you’ve ever sat and talked with a child, it’s easy to see that their worldview is incredibly simple.
They don’t understand complicated concepts like external ethics or moral reasoning. Instead, their minds are focused on doing what feels good to them in the moment, even if it may not be “right” for them or others.
The truth is that ethics and morality are learned attitudes and behaviors. They’re concepts that children understand and adopt more and more as they age.
American psychologist Lawrence Kohlberg created a theory of the stages of moral development that explained the process by which children learned ethical reasoning and moral behavior.
In this post, we’ll take a closer look at what these six stages are to help you understand how your child is growing into a greater comprehension of ethics and morality. Through the information we’ll share below, you’ll be better equipped to help your child as they work through the complex topic of moral reasoning.
The six stages of moral developments as outlined by Kohlberg’s theories are:
1. Obedience and punishment orientation
2. Self-interest orientation
3. Interpersonal accord and conformity
4. Authority and social-order maintaining orientation
5. Social contract orientation
6. Universal principles of ethics
These stages are spread across three levels: pre-conventional, conventional, and post-conventional.
Let’s break them down a bit further.
The Pre-Conventional Level typically occurs when the children are very young, between the ages of 2 and 7.
During this level, children don’t have an internalized understanding of morals, but they follow the morals as explained to them by outside influences (parents, teachers, etc.).
At Stage 1, the Obedience and Punishment Orientation Stage, children act largely to avoid direct consequences. If an action will be followed by a punishment, they will typically avoid it as “bad”. If an action will be followed by a reward, on the other hand, it is a “good” action in their minds.
An outside moral code is what guides children’s actions and facilitates moral decision making at this stage.
By Stage 2, the Self-Interest Orientation Stage,children have already learned the basic notion of “good/bad” (as defined by reward/punishment) and begin to grasp morality, though it’s still imposed on them by outside influences. Now, they begin to think in greater complexity, regarding their self-interest.
No longer is it only “Adult X says this is good” or “Parent Y will punish me for this bad behavior”. Now, there is another level of “How will this benefit me?” Actions are judged as “right” if they serve some need your child has or gives them something they believe they want (which feels like a “reward”).
Their behavior is not yet moral—everything is still transactional at this stage, with their own self-interests being the primary motivator.
Children reach the Conventional Level around the ages of 8 or 9, and remain in this level through adolescence, sometimes even into early adulthood.
At this level, older children and teenagers begin to understand the nuances of right and wrong as dictated by cultures, customs, and traditions. They also begin to comprehend established codes of conduct: city laws, school regulations, sports team requirements, etc.
This is when moral reasoning changes to become internalized. No longer are they only imposed by an outside source (with the power to reward or punish), but adult role models are imitated and their moral values adopted or absorbed.
Social rules and expectations provide a clear guide to what is “acceptable” or “unacceptable” behavior, with the goal of fitting in and belonging being a primary motivator driving action and behavior.
At Stage 3, the Interpersonal Accord and Conformity Stage,morality tends to be guided in large part by social approval.
Peers as well as parents, teachers, and authority figures provide approval or disapproval, and the child shapes their morality accordingly. They do so in order to be seen as “good” by the society they value. Their actions and behavior typically reflect their desire to please others, and through doing so, to conform and feel a sense of belonging.
Relationships are the driving force at this conventional morality stage. The more a child’s behavior is approved of by the role models and social connections they find most valuable, the more they will internalize that behavior as “good”.
At Stage 4, the Authority and Social-Order Maintaining Orientation Stage,teenagers have expanded their worldview to look beyond merely their social group.
They realize, “If this small group accepts me because I follow their rules and conform, the world at large will do so if I maintain social order and follow the laws established in my community, city, and country.”
Behavior is not driven solely by the perception of a small peer group or valued role models, but by society at large, with the goal of fitting in through maintaining social order. Societal rules are viewed as crucial for the collective wellbeing of not only the individuals, but the world into which they are attempting to integrate.
The Post-Conventional Level of morality is the highest moral development level, typically reached through adulthood and persisting throughout the remainder of your life.
At this level, you develop a greater understanding of what is “right” and “wrong” through your own interpretation of universal ethical principles, not just society’s definitions or established norms.
Adults have built their foundation on the previous stages of moral reasoning, and now they’re ready to expand beyond outside influences and perspectives and conceptualize their own moral principles. This is when personal morality becomes the primary driving factor behind behavior.
Abstract principles—such as justice, equity, fairness, decency, empathy, and other values we consider fundamental as humans—start to carry a great deal of weight.
At Stage 5, the Social Contract Orientation Stage, they become aware that laws exist with the intention of providing good to the largest percentage of the population, and they may sometimes work against individuals.
Issues begin to take on nuances and shades of gray. It’s at this stage that ethical questions, thought experiments, and hypothetical moral dilemmas—such as the Heinz dilemma or the trolley problem—are pondered more fully and explored. The individual reaches an outcome they deem satisfactory based on their own understanding of morality, not what the world at large or society around them deems satisfactory.
Kohlberg estimated that only around 10% or fewer people ever reach this postconventional morality stage of advanced moral reasoning.
At Stage 6, the Universal Ethical Principles Stage,they have developed self-chosen ethical principles that apply (or ought to apply) across the board.
For example, “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness” or “justice for all” are universal ethical principles. Non-violence, equal human rights, and the value of human worth and dignity are other examples.
These more general ethical principles drive behavior and provide motivation. However, because of their abstract nature, Kohlberg questioned whether anyone truly ever reaches this stage—what could be described as “total moral enlightenment”.
It is a question of whether anyone could ever act in total service of ethics, with no self-interest guiding their actions.
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Below is a breakdown of how building moral character looks in children:
So, it’s not just about how complicated the moral issues become. It’s about the changing conditions that drive kids’ understanding and reasoning.
Each moral standpoint has its own challenges to overcome, and they can be summarized as follows:
The support from community, family, caregivers, and peer groups helps children navigate these difficulties and process the spectrum of moral emotions that come along.
Teachers and parents of children, teenagers, and young adults, those going through Stages 1 through 4, will find a few simple strategies can work very effectively to encourage moral education and cognitive development.
These strategies are as follows:
Prioritize your child’s moral development and be a part of it as much as you can, and you will find the journey incredibly rewarding!
Kohlberg’s theory has received some criticism, including:
However, despite these criticisms, it can still provide parents with a starting point to help them understand their child’s moral thinking and encourage moral development.
While Kohlberg’s Stages of Moral Development may not be the be-all-and-end-all, it’s an excellent tool you can use as a teacher or parent to follow along with your child as they travel along the journey toward moral reasoning.
All of us are continually evolving and growing, and understanding that we’re all moving through these six stages can help you to both have a clearer understanding of your own morals and find tools to help your child along their own moral growth.
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At Stage 1, obedience to avoid punishment and obtain reward is the driving factor, while self-interest is the primary motivator at Stage 2. Acceptance among peers and role models is prime at Stage 3, and at Stage 4, acceptance in society at large is crucial. Individual morality takes the lead at Stage 5, while Stage 6 is about universal application of what we have deemed to be “ethical” or “moral” through our years of development.
School-age children often move through Stages 1 (obedience/punishment), Stages 2 (self-interest,) and 3 (conformity/acceptance) with some beginning early development of Stage 4 (awareness of rules and authority). Peer interaction throughout these stages creates empathy and helps children look beyond their own self-interests, and creates a sense of acceptance and belonging.
Emotional intelligence helps children begin to recognize the feelings of others and gradually shift from self-focused thinking to more empathetic decision-making. This leads to greater acceptance, which helps children to understand that making choices that benefit others can ultimately be more “right” than making choices that only improve their own lives.
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